I broke down at work today.
I’m ill and I have no one to lean on.
I don’t like nothing now
I broke down at work today.
I’m ill and I have no one to lean on.
I don’t like nothing now
sad lady parts :(
Americanah, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s new book, is the story of Ifemelu, a young Nigerian who travels to America to study and stays there for 13 years before deciding to return to Lagos. The book is an atmospheric and vibrant love story – the love between Ifemelu and Obinze, the high-school sweetheart she leaves behind, the love between Ifemelu and her American boyfriend, the love she has for her young cousin Dike, whom she looks after in America, and the love of her homeland, Nigeria. It is also a novel about race and immigration and what it feels like to be black in America.
But the book’s biggest love affair seems to be Adichie’s enduring relationship with hair. Hairstyle is such a constant presence in the book that not a page goes past without a mention of it: straight weaves, box braids, cornrows, dreadlocks, afros, twists, raucous curls, kinky coils and TWAs (teeny weeny afros). Not to mention texturisers, relaxers, oils, pomades and hair butter. No character in her book gets away without having their hairstyle mentioned, and many are defined by it. And not just the girls. ‘The greying hair on the back of his head was swept forward, a comical arrangement to disguise his bald spot.’ ‘A dreadlocked white man sat next to her on the train, his hair like old twine ropes that ended in a blond fuzz.’
Chimamanda Adichie, 36, sits before me now in a hotel in London: contained, amused, sexy and intellectual. Her own hair is succinctly tethered, but it looks as if, were she to free it, it would be ready to spring into action at any time.
‘I am obsessed with hair!’ she exclaims, before settling happily into a long session on the subject. ‘As you can see I have natural, negro hair, free from relaxers and things. My hair story started when I was a baby. My mother had boys and she desperately wanted a girl, a girl with hair. I came out with a lot of hair and she was thrilled. As I was growing up she would do things to my hair but what I loved the most was when she stretched it with a hot comb. I was terrified too, because when the comb touched your ear it was so painful, but I loved the idea that my hair would then be straight. So when I was three years old I already had the idea that straight hair was beautiful and my hair was ugly.’
In secondary school her hair had to be natural or in braids. Even now, Adichie says, her two nieces who go to school near Lagos have to have their hair cut short, like boys. (‘They are continually texting me, to ask me to buy them a wig. I believe strongly that we should be proud of our hair, but if my 15-year-old nieces want a straight wig, I’ll buy them a straight wig! Life is short.’)
On the last day of secondary school Adichie ‘relaxed’ her hair. ‘It was this huge girl occasion for me and my friends,’ she says. ‘A relaxer alters the hair chemically and makes it permanently straight. But it also burns the scalp. And sometimes the hair just refuses to be totally straight, so they’ll use a tong and then it smells just like burning goat.’
She progressed through a series of hairstyles before she moved to America. ‘But here’s the thing – in America I suddenly found out I was black. I’m black! What does that mean? Suddenly I started thinking, why do I want my hair to look like white girls’ hair? This is absurd.’ In Americanah, after Ifemelu gets the relaxer treatment in the salon for the first time, the hairdresser says, ‘Wow, girl, you’ve got that white-girl swing!’Adichie writes. ‘She left the salon almost mournfully; while the hairdresser had flat-ironed the ends, the smell of burning, of something organic dying which should not have died, had made her feel a sense of loss.’
Adichie well remembers the day she cut off all her hair, and is now a keen exponent of the natural hair movement, though it is only popular in America; back in Nigeria hair is still straight. She has a friend who will not even answer the door without her wig, and ‘the salons there don’t know how to care for our hair any more. They only know about wigs and weaves and relaxed hair.’
Don’t get put off my the length, the entire article is well worth reading. I just wish Adichie would’ve addressed the real reason why Nigerians were upset about Thandie Newton being cast to play a Nigerian woman.
Amazing author!!! I am just about to read her 1st book right now :-3
HOLD MY PURSE NJENA REDDD FOXXX
i’m living for this Real Talk sample rn
GET INTO THIS.
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Man, I’ve missed tumblr so much.
I’ve missed the incessant bickering and general acceptance.
I’ll try to keep in touch with all my sweethearts (if we’ve had a conversation, you are a sweetheart)
My darlings - Ebi, Yaya, Jasmine and Sade; we need to make good on our planned night of wanton drinking and general debauchery.
There’s this friend of mine that I’m torn between wanting to be her and wanting to be on top of her.
She’s so effortlessly sexy.. ugh. Lord help me.
One day, we’ll have too much something and I’ll make to snog her.
I’m scared and worried. I need peace of mind and security.
Can’t believe I’m about to start this again.
That sounds like a great night, I need more friends who want to dance/go out/would invite me to things :( my social life is kind of abysmal. How is everything else going life wise?
aww, everything is going good thanks and you can ask me!
Anonymous asked: Hi I wonder you very much! I hope to communicate with you!
Umm, I’m not sure I understand the first bit, but if you wanna talk to me, I’m almost always available to talk, and I really like talking to folks so simply say hello :)
I went out with my friends and just got back.
First was buffet at the o2 with pitchersssss of cocktails the cockobar with an unending supply of drinks. I know we spent about a grand this night (most probably 2).
I got my tits and ass grabbed so many times this night it was glorious. I twerked, winded pon many cockys, daggered with many people and had a banging ass time. Good money well spent.
I’m well and truly liquored up. However, since It takes a lot (I mean a fucking lot) of alchy to get me drunk, I’m not drunk but I’m highly impressionable right now so that’s good.
I know you folks hardly talk to me, but I’m up and intoxicated, c’mon talk to me..
BREAKING NEWS: One of Nigeria’s most prolific authors, Chinua Achebe, has passed away at the age 82.
Reports say the Brown University professor had been ill for a while and reports say he passed away last night in a Boston hospital.
Achebe rose to prominence after the publishing of his first novel Things Fall Apart, in 1958, and has authored other international best-selling novels such as No Longer At Ease, A Man of the People, Arrow of God and Anthills of the Savannah.
“One of the truest tests of integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised.”
- Chinua Achebe
Man, this is so sad.
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I think I’m gross in the way I view people and want to study them.
When i find people that pique my interest, I want to dive into them and study them from within. Look up every crevice and let my fingers explore every nook. It’s disgusting I suppose, but infinitely interesting to me.
Of course I can’t do this or I’d be locked up in a dingy room labelled simply as crazy so instead I ask questions a lot and go out of my way to help and be around people I like.
It’s hardly a thing of caring but a purely selfish way for me to assuage my feelings.
I’m a gross human being.
^_^
Someone said I eat enough for 14 continents when I’m hungry. I’m going to eat them when I see them, and I won’t be hungry either.
Rabbit.
How dare you?
How very dare you?
This job has made me enjoy sleep more. On average, I get not more that 6 hours sleep every day I go to work, so on my off days, when I’m not cooking and baking ahead of the coming week, I’m sleeping.
Yesterday I got to bed around 9:30 am and fell asleep about 30 mins later. You can imagine the shock when I woke up at 7 pm well rested nonetheless. I told my friend about my long sleep and he said there was no way i could sleep during the night. it seemed like my body took that as a challenge as by 10:30 pm, I was fast asleep only to wake up at 3 am.
It’s 7:40 am and I’m going to sleep again very soon. This is why i tell people to avoid trying to reach me during weekdays as when I’m not sleeping, I’m working.