"Just because your pain is understandable, doesn’t mean your behavior is acceptable."

— Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience (via derikisu)

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"i learned that people can easily forget that others are human."

— "prisoner" from the stanford prison experiment (1971)

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"Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit."

— inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via partygirlmeltdown)

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"If they ask you about me, tell them “She was the only girl who loved me with honesty, and I broke her.”"

— Shahrazad al-Khalij  

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"Let everything happen to you.
Beauty and terror.
Just keep going.
No feeling is final."

— Rainer Maria Rilke   (via wholesomeearth)

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"It’s okay that you chose her. We always choose the wrong people for ourselves. After all I chose you."

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"People aren’t books, I’ve learned.
You can’t bookmark your favorite pieces
to return to whenever you’re feeling lonely;
when the nights get too cold and you
need something familiar to keep you warm,
you can’t reopen their spines and wear
out their pages and call that obsession love."

— Pavana पवन (via maza-dohta)

(via sugahwaatah)

"Have you ever lost someone you love and wanted one more conversation, one more chance to make up for the time when you thought they would be here forever? If so, then you know you can go your whole life collecting days, and none will outweigh the one you wish you had back."

— Mitch Albom (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Self-deprecation is often our way of apologizing in advance. If we make sure that everyone else knows that WE know that there is something wrong with us, so we don’t have to worry about what they think of us. We’ve already told them what to think of us.

We warn people so they aren’t disappointed. We apologize for who and what we are. Obviously nobody would like us if they discovered the ugly things about us on their own, so we make sure they know ahead of time. That way we don’t get attached only to have them leave us…

Because we are ashamed of who we are, we assume others will feel the same way, so we apologize again and again.

"

Why Your Apology Isn’t Going To Cut It by Kelly Boaz.

This hit a chord with me.

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“Tell me what happens the first time you see a woman naked.”

“The first time you see a woman naked will not be like you imagined. There will be no love, no trust, no intimacy. You won’t even be in the same room as her.

You won’t get to smile as she undresses you and you undress her. You won’t get to calm her nerves with nerves of your own. You won’t get to kiss her, feeling her lips and the edge of her tongue. You won’t get to brush your fingers over the lace of her bra or count her ribs or feel her heartbeat.

The first time you see a woman naked you will be sitting in front of a computer screen watching someone play at intimacy and perform at sex. She will contort her body to please everyone in the room but her. You will watch this woman who is not a woman, pixelated and filtered and customized. She will come ready-made, like an order at a restaurant. The man on the screen will be bigger than you, rougher than you. He will teach you how to talk to her. He will teach you where to put your hands and he will teach you what you’re supposed to like. He will teach you to take what is yours.

You must unlearn this. You must unlearn this twisted sense of love. You must unlearn the definition of pleasure and intimacy you are being taught. Kill this idea of love, this idea of entitlement, this way of scarring one another.”

"

(via sanctifymyheart)

Please heed this if your expectations of sex come from porn. The worst sex I have ever had is with men who clearly think all sexual experiences are like porn. If you can’t get hard unless I’m screaming “I’m your bitch put your cock in my asshole and cum in my mouth!” you might need to reevaluate and repair yourself.

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"I have lost and loved and won and cried myself to the person I am today."

— Charlotte Eriksson, Empty Roads & Broken Bottles; in search for The Great Perhaps (via wordsnquotes)

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"She’s not cold hearted, she’s just tired."

Anonymous  (via 1112pm)

ME

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"I’m still depressed, but how depressed I am varies, which is good. Much of the time, it’s a comfortable numbness that just makes things feel muted. Other times, I’m standing in the shower or something and I can feel the nothingness hurtling toward me at eight thousand miles per hour and there’s nothing I can really do aside from let it happen and wait until it goes away again."

— Allie Brosh, Hyperbole and a Half  (via safeinyour-skin)

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"I wish I could just tell everybody how I feel about everything. I am tired of pretending. But I am too afraid that no one will like me without the parts of me I have worked so hard to make up."

— Staceyann Chin, The Other Side of Paradise (via colorfulacoustic)

(via thatfriendlyblackguy)

"It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t come back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head."

— Henry Rollins, The Portable Henry Rollins (via natashakills)

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